Havelock Road, Singapore
81° F (27.2° C)
I have always felt comfortable around women. I have had women friends ever since I can remember. That ended when I married a woman who did not comprehend the feasibility of opposite sex friendships. I am not without reason. The opposite sex relationship can and do exist, but there is always the minute possibility that something can happen... and, on occasions, harmless flirtations do occur. So, I understood the severe discomfort she was experiencing with the idea... and I learned to live without female friendships.
Now that part of my life is over, I find myself entertaining the idea of women, once again, as friends. Do women have problem with this? If a man she is involved in has a buddy who happens to be a woman... and he is going on an annual trip he and "his buddy" enjoyed for the last few years... How many women out there has no problem with this? If they were sharing a room to save on the cost?
Of course, it may seem small minded to think of it as more than a trip with a buddy. You should have enough trust in your man if the relationship is going to work at all. You should relax and allow your man to enjoy the well earned R&R away from stressful day to day life... Right? Then why does it feel so shitty?
Wouldn't you want your man to care enough to avoid such situations? And do everything in his power to put you at ease?
1 comments:
I guess I'm lucky. I've always felt that i should be able to have buddy relationships with females, and my wife agrees with me. Since I was the only male PhD student at my old unit that was pretty lucky indeed.
Actually some times I've almost wanted her to be jealous, so as to verify that she feels possessive about me. Still, it's probably better this way.
By the way, I found your blog during a google search for "Chokladkoppen" and I must say it's been a good read so far (although I've mostly read the Swedish tagged entries so far).
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